Here’s the problem I’ve always had with blogs that talk about life lists/bucket lists/what have you. 

There’s a lot of sites that discuss the lists themselves, and blog about the happy day when you get to cross “go to China” or “get a gallery showing” or “make baklava from scratch” off your list.  But what I want to know is, how you got there.  Because it’s discouraging, if — like me — you don’t have a lot of time or money, and you have a long list yourself but you don’t know how you’re going to afford to go to China or get the connections to have a gallery showing or what not.  So you see someone else having all these experiences you’re too broke or busy to have, and you feel like they’re living the life you should have lived.

Which is why I also want to talk about the process.  I’m not just going to tell you about the goals, I’m going to tell you how the hell I’m getting there.  Where I find the sewing machine to sew my own quilt, or who I start talking to to track down someone I knew when I was twelve…how I get there, basically.

Because I’m really starting with nothing.  I’m a single woman of “a certain age,” working as a temp and perpetually broke – but even perpetually broke, middle aged temps deserve to have their goals met too.  We just gotta figure out how to get around some obstacles.

So that’s what this is about.

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